Why Is Being A Parent So Terrifying?

Why Is Being A Parent So Terrifying?

I remember sitting in the emergency room. My stomach knotting with anticipation. I had a pretty good idea what I was bound to learn that night, but there was always a chance it could go another way. Looking back, I don’t think I was nervous about being told I was pregnant. I think I was scared they were going to tell me I was wrong.

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Mommy Milestone!

Mommy Milestone!

I did something that I have not done since I donned the title “Mommy”. I read a book from cover to cover. Even worse? I enjoyed every selfish minute of it!

That’s right my parental friends. I’m here to tell you that it can be done. You see, I used to love reading. It was not uncommon to find me curled up somewhere – anywhere – with a book in my hand. I read everywhere and everything, but since I have been a mother my reading has diminished slightly …… like, pictures books and the back of shampoo bottles slightly.

When my daughter was an infant I couldn’t justify spending precious sleep time reading. When she was a toddler I couldn’t take my eyes off her long enough to read a sentence, let alone a whole book. As the years progressed I guess I become more comfortable with T.V and my iPad and less comfortable with a good old fashion paperback. Hell, lazy I guess if you want to get right down to the truth of things. Then we went on vacation.

It took me a while to pick it up, but we were around tons of family and my kids were well entertained, so why not? Then it happened, I had some spare time! For the first time in a long time I was able to lose myself to a great story without worrying about the lives of my children. It was amazing!

I know it might not seem like a massive deal to many of you, why not wait for the movie? Right? It’s not just reading though. This revelation made me start thinking about all of the other things that I enjoyed doing once upon a time that I pushed aside. We all do it. Parenting a child is a full-time responsibility that leaves you with very little time for yourself. Most of us spend the small amount of “us” time catching up on chores or work, and we neglect the things that we once enjoyed. Like reading. Our hobbies get dusty on a shelf while we try to keep little humans breathing for a few years.

Listen, I did more than just finish a book this past week. I spent some honest to god time doing something I enjoyed. Don’t get me wrong, I love my children, and I enjoy every single nano-second I spend with them. I love being a Mother and would not change it for anything in this world, but we should not lose ourselves in our attempt to be perfect parents. In the long run that only makes us more imperfect because what are we teaching our children when we become zombie slaves? If you don’t do something that you enjoy every once in a blue moon, you lose yourself. How many parents out their could honestly answer the question “what do you enjoy doing?” I don’t know anymore because all I do is work, cook, raise children, clean, and sleep!

Try not to lose grasp of the things you enjoy! Being a parent doesn’t mean losing yourself! I read that book and I enjoyed every minute of it. Guess what? My kids are still alive and perfectly well. That’s right, they survived a little me time, and it’s a good thing too because I already have the next book picked out!

The Bittersweet Taste of Christmas

The Bittersweet Taste of Christmas

Decembers infused with holiday magic, but it can be hard, especially as a parent, to remember to enjoy all of the small cherishable moments. Sure, there are Christmas lights and garland sprinkled with berries everywhere you look, but you don’t have to look far to find a headache or two either!

I don’t mean to sound like a twenty first century grinch here, but seriously! We sit down as a family to watch a Christmas classic or two and they have been chopped all to hell to make “more” room for commercials, targeted at the children watching them. “Buy this eighty million dollar toy, if Santa loves you he will bring it!”

The elf on a shelf, what a clever idea! F’you inventer of elf on a shelf ….. F you! While you’re sitting back making millions on a sock puppet, I am tasked with the chore of thinking up new and exciting ways the little shit can ruin my house! While you are rolling in your gold coins laughing maniacally like Scrooge Mc Duck, I am forking over twenty dollars for a stupid elf outfit ….. did I say F you yet?

So I decided to do some good old fashion baking with my kids this year. They’re old enough this year, right? WRONG! Flour, frosting, chaos! Quite honestly, it was the most fun I’ve had all winter ….. !

Maybe I’m old fashion, but I remember Christmas being a much simpler time. Stores didn’t skip Halloween and Thanksgiving in order to get a jump on Christmas! You celebrated each one individually. Trees and decorations generally went up after Thanksgiving, and instead of being bombarded with ads and commercials pushing super expensive electronic devices, you had the Toys’R’Us catalog!

I’m here to remind you fellow parents that you’re not alone! We all feel the heat closing in on us! Wrappings not done, the kids don’t have an equal amount of gifts, you need to bake cookies for Santa, still need to pick up something for aunt Sue, and god forbid you forget the batteries!

I am here to tell you to slow down! Grab your kids, sit them down, and make them watch Charlie Brown with you, the entire thing, not the edited for commercial version! String popcorn, and sing carols, and be reminded of a simpler time. Take a moment to enjoy this holiday, and then get rested up for the after Christmas Sales!

Now if you’ll excuse me I have to go destroy my kitchen with the elf … maybe next year they’ll invent one that cleans up after itself …..

Childhood Memories of Christmas Past

Childhood Memories of Christmas Past

What do you actually remember from childhood? Like, what do you really remember about Christmas?  Do you actually remember what was in each and every neatly wrapped box, every single year, since you were a kid? Remember every single present, and everyone who gave you each present? I sure don’t …..

Wanna know what I do remember?

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I can’t believe it’s almost 2018!

I can’t believe it’s almost 2018!

Seriously, where did this year go? Now I know what sleeping beauty felt like because I feel like I must have slept through a few months! Well, minus the evil witch, handsome prince …. and kisses!

There was so much stuff I planned to do this year, but none of it got done! I made new year resolutions, the normal stuff like losing weight, and set goals, and none of them got done! I’m not going back to school (one of my goals), I’m still eating Oreos on the reg, and please don’t get me started about the White Chocolate Raspberry pancakes we have at work!

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Play-Dating Other Moms? What’s Your Advice…?

Play-Dating Other Moms? What’s Your Advice…?

Oh boy, my little Kayleigh-Bug was on screech today!

I’m pretty sure she woke up this morning and her first thought of the day was “how can I annoy thee, let me count the ways.” Then she probably cackled. She might have even stroked a furless cat while her pinky was held proudly in the air. I’m serious … Nothing would have surprised me today!

So I decided to do what any amazing, and loving, Mother would do ….. We went to McDonalds so she could wear her damn self out is what we did!

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You Don’t Believe in Fate? Then Explain This …

You Don’t Believe in Fate? Then Explain This …

Today made me think, everyday makes me think, but today really expanded my mind. I have always questioned fate and those who claim it holds power over each and everyone of us. How can you explain fate? You’re telling me that somewhere in this giant universe someone is keeping a record of everyone’s future? That some higher power commands your attention and directs you to be in the right place at the right time? Honestly, that is a massive theory. Then today happens … and I cannot help but wonder….. is fate a real thing?

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Pumpkin Picking With the Littles

Pumpkin Picking With the Littles

We went adventuring today after I got out of work! We found this super cool little place that was really close by; I have driven past this place a thousand times and never knew what a little hidden gem it was!

We weren’t really sure we wanted to drive a half hour away, not knowing what this place was like. We have, more than once, driven great lengths just to find ourselves in the beginning of a Horror movie! Like, back roads, married cousins, this can be scary stuff people, but we locked our doors and went!

I’m super glad we did!

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Truth Time: Everyone Needs to go to Bed or Mommys Gunna Lose Her Shit

Truth Time: Everyone Needs to go to Bed or Mommys Gunna Lose Her Shit

Today has been the perfect storm on my usually calm nerves. I’m pretty easy-going and it takes a lot to try my patience, but today was hand delivered from hell by the devil himself okay!

I fell asleep on the couch last night while I was snuggling with my BabyBug, and spent the better part of the night twisted about in the free space around her. Hello Thirty …. I am getting old and I know “thirty is not old” but it sure feels old!

The rest of the day was spent fighting one battle after another and all with a stiff neck, aching joints and a throbbing headache!

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Texting Suicide Case: When Words are Weapons

Texting Suicide Case: When Words are Weapons

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Michelle Carters Actual Real Text Messages To Conrad Roys Phone

On July 13, 2014, Conrad Roy committed suicide. The fact that he killed himself, although tragic, was not what made this case unique. Suicide is thought to be the 10th leading cause of death among Americans, with someone committing suicide once every twelve minutes. What made this case stand out and grab national attention was his long-distance girlfriends, 18 year old Michelle Carter, involvement. How could someone Conrad had only met a couple of times be held responsible for his suicide? The answer to that question would soon be found in Conrad Roy’s cellphone.

In the days that followed Conrad Roy’s suicide, Michelle Carter spent a great deal of time playing the grieving girlfriend. She contacted Conrad’s mother and sister, she posted on social media about her boyfriends death and organized a charity baseball game in her home town for Conrad. Everyone felt sorry for the young grieving girlfriend but that would quickly change.

Although it was a suicide, the police still had to do an investigation to make sure everything fell into place. What they found on his mobile phone shocked his family and friends. When they pulled phone records from the past conversations between the two, they found thousands of correspondence, and almost all of it depicted Michelle as the ringleader of her boyfriends suicide. Why? Read more