Going To Kick This Thing Off!

Going To Kick This Thing Off!

Alright guys …. settle down! I know it is exciting that I am finally here, ready to dedicate my time and efforts to you, in order to help you become the best Mama Bug that you can be!

So let’s get started! First I want to say that it is going to take some time and tweaking to get this looking good and working effortlessly. I will need everyone to help with this, keep the comments coming guys! Second I need to get this out there into the internet world. I hope my content and amazingly charming humor will do the work for me, but I will need a little help from that amazing share button over there! Please share, help me reach as many would be Mama Bugs as possible! Thanks Bugs!

Its going to take some time, it’s going to take some effort, and it is going to take a whole LOT of coffee, but we will get this page off the ground! Let’s become an amazing group of dedicated Mommys and shoulders to cry on during those tough toddler moments! Can’t wait to meet all the Mommas of the world! Let’s go!

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Play-Dating Other Moms? What’s Your Advice…?

Play-Dating Other Moms? What’s Your Advice…?

Oh boy, my little Kayleigh-Bug was on screech today!

I’m pretty sure she woke up this morning and her first thought of the day was “how can I annoy thee, let me count the ways.” Then she probably cackled. She might have even stroked a furless cat while her pinky was held proudly in the air. I’m serious … Nothing would have surprised me today!

So I decided to do what any amazing, and loving, Mother would do ….. We went to McDonalds so she could wear her damn self out is what we did!

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You Don’t Believe in Fate? Then Explain This …

You Don’t Believe in Fate? Then Explain This …

Today made me think, everyday makes me think, but today really expanded my mind. I have always questioned fate and those who claim it holds power over each and everyone of us. How can you explain fate? You’re telling me that somewhere in this giant universe someone is keeping a record of everyone’s future? That some higher power commands your attention and directs you to be in the right place at the right time? Honestly, that is a massive theory. Then today happens … and I cannot help but wonder….. is fate a real thing?

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Why Does My Child Lie: 3 Reasons Why it is Our Fault Kids Lie

Why Does My Child Lie: 3 Reasons Why it is Our Fault Kids Lie

My daughter is four years old, and we have always been able to count on that girl to tell the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. My (step) son just turned five, and he has always lied a bit, but recently it’s feels like he is trying to become the next Stephen King with his stories!

I think I’ve always held a high standard for honesty in our home because I know how greatly morals are valued in our world today. I don’t want my children to become those kids that everyone hates to see walking through a door, and you know exactly what I’m talking about!

You can implement punishment when a child lies, but I feel like that will only make them try harder to tell a better lie next time. You can explain why lying is bad, but do they really care at this age? So, what can you do?

I have racked my brain for the answer to this question, and I think I have found an answer that is working well, in my house at least! You cannot stop a child from lying until you understand why they’re doing it, and once you understand why you can create a game-plan that custom fits each child’s individual need.

So I started watching, and waiting, and watching, and it didn’t take long before a lie flew out of their mouths. The more I really studied my children’s dishonest behavior, the more I understood something that I never expected …….

It is all our fault that our children lie!

One hundred and fifty percent our fault, but it’s not because we intentionally told them to become a liey lie-face. I know most of you are sitting here going “nuh-uh it ain’t my fault”, but it actually really is!

See children are born with a clean slate; they are the most innocent creature that exists, until we corrupt them! We don’t mean to though. In fact, most of us kill ourselves trying to keep them from becoming tarnished by life. While we are trying to shelter them from the big-bads of the world we’re unknowingly becoming the problem.

Let me explain this a bit further …. let’s explore why kids lie when they are young.

They Tell Stories

Most of us start reading to our children before their even capable of communication. Some people even read to their child while they are still in the womb (Guilty!). We do it to help our children learn how to form words into coherent sentences, we do it to expose them to different things, and we do it to bond with our child. What we don’t realize is this: we are teaching them how to tell people something that is not true!

One of my daughters favorite books is Goldilocks and The Three Bears. She has started asking me about bears coming and sleeping in her bed. She has also asked about bears living in the woods and if they would come say “Hi”, so I had to tell her that bears actually don’t invite little girls into their home for porridge and a chat!

You could instantly see her wheels turning while she thought back to every book she had ever thought, or imagined, was real. All of a sudden she understood that people tell these colorfully illustrated lies for entertainment, so why couldn’t she?

I would never suggest that a parent stop reading to their child, nor would I say that you should squash on their imagination. However, it is interesting to understand how books could lead a child to think lying was acceptable in some forms.

They Use it to Get What They Want

“Can I have another cookie Daddy?”

“What did your mom say?”

Oh man, what a conundrum! I know Mom said no more cookies when I asked, but I sure do want one more, what do I do? If I tell him she said yes I will get a cookie, but if I tell him the truth I won’t get one. Children find themselves in situations like these all too often. Even as an adult, I would probably lie to get the damn cookie!

When a young child is faced with a choice such as this: lie and get what you want, tell the truth and get nothing, they are probably going to lie. They don’t fully comprehend morals and guilt yet, they are impulsive creatures, and when they want something they get tunnel vision. You really cannot blame a child for this, it’s not their fault.

We need to become more aware of our actions and what choices we put onto our young children’s shoulders. Should he ask what I said, or should he get up and ask me himself? Should I have anticipated her next move and went to inform him of my decision before she had a chance to ask, yes I should.

Being more aware and conscious of this could help teach your children not to lie because you are not putting them in a situation that requires lying.

They Lie to Stay Out of Trouble

I know, that sounds like an oxymoron right? As silly as it sounds, it is absolute truth! This is the biggest reason my children lie to me, because they think they are going to be in trouble unless they lie. I know that lying is going to create bigger problems in the long run, but I am an adult who can process the concept of consequences.

*Child breaks window*

“Did you break the window?”

“No, the cat did!”

It actually broke my heart when I realized how common this was in our home. Do my children really think I am so unreasonable that instead of admitting to an accident they would lie? Have I made them feel like they cannot tell me the truth and be heard when they explain why?

Needless to say, we had a long conversation as a family about lying and why it was not okay. We also talked about why it was okay to tell the truth, even if you believe you will be in trouble, because you are going to be in far less trouble when you are honest. Since that conversation my children have felt more secure about telling the truth, and I have been a bit more aware of making them feel this way.

There are obviously other reasons why people lie, but most of them are much more complicated than children are. These are the most common reasons why children lie to their parents. I understand and accept my part in their dishonesty and since then lying has become less frequent in our home.

Pumpkin Picking With the Littles

Pumpkin Picking With the Littles

We went adventuring today after I got out of work! We found this super cool little place that was really close by; I have driven past this place a thousand times and never knew what a little hidden gem it was!

We weren’t really sure we wanted to drive a half hour away, not knowing what this place was like. We have, more than once, driven great lengths just to find ourselves in the beginning of a Horror movie! Like, back roads, married cousins, this can be scary stuff people, but we locked our doors and went!

I’m super glad we did!

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Truth Time: Everyone Needs to go to Bed or Mommys Gunna Lose Her Shit

Truth Time: Everyone Needs to go to Bed or Mommys Gunna Lose Her Shit

Today has been the perfect storm on my usually calm nerves. I’m pretty easy-going and it takes a lot to try my patience, but today was hand delivered from hell by the devil himself okay!

I fell asleep on the couch last night while I was snuggling with my BabyBug, and spent the better part of the night twisted about in the free space around her. Hello Thirty …. I am getting old and I know “thirty is not old” but it sure feels old!

The rest of the day was spent fighting one battle after another and all with a stiff neck, aching joints and a throbbing headache!

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Texting Suicide Case: When Words are Weapons

Texting Suicide Case: When Words are Weapons

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Michelle Carters Actual Real Text Messages To Conrad Roys Phone

On July 13, 2014, Conrad Roy committed suicide. The fact that he killed himself, although tragic, was not what made this case unique. Suicide is thought to be the 10th leading cause of death among Americans, with someone committing suicide once every twelve minutes. What made this case stand out and grab national attention was his long-distance girlfriends, 18 year old Michelle Carter, involvement. How could someone Conrad had only met a couple of times be held responsible for his suicide? The answer to that question would soon be found in Conrad Roy’s cellphone.

In the days that followed Conrad Roy’s suicide, Michelle Carter spent a great deal of time playing the grieving girlfriend. She contacted Conrad’s mother and sister, she posted on social media about her boyfriends death and organized a charity baseball game in her home town for Conrad. Everyone felt sorry for the young grieving girlfriend but that would quickly change.

Although it was a suicide, the police still had to do an investigation to make sure everything fell into place. What they found on his mobile phone shocked his family and friends. When they pulled phone records from the past conversations between the two, they found thousands of correspondence, and almost all of it depicted Michelle as the ringleader of her boyfriends suicide. Why? Read more

Mommy Moments: When You Feel so Mad That You Want to Roar

Mommy Moments: When You Feel so Mad That You Want to Roar

Fellow parents, I’ve hit a point in my parenting where I am now relying on children’s cartoons to get me through my emotional fits, has that happened to anyone else?

There is this little goody two-shoes tiger, you all probably know him from his debut on Mister Rogers Neighborhood. He was the tiger that lived in the clock, the little shy one? Remember? Meow …. I run at the sight of my own shadow …. Meow?

Well anyways ….. even if you don’t remember that’s okay because he is not the same anymore! Now he is an emotional toddler learning life Lessons and teaching them to other young’ins through songs!

Oh the songs …..

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The Las Vegas Shootings: Things That Don’t Add Up

The Las Vegas Shootings: Things That Don’t Add Up

I was scrolling through my Facebook feed when I stumbled on a post my sister had made. She was basically asking “what has gone wrong with the world”. What is wrong with the world? What causes someone, who seemingly had everything to live for, to commit such a tragic crime, and why are their so many inconsistencies with this story?

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Things You Never Said Untill You Had Kids

Things You Never Said Untill You Had Kids

My fellow parents, you know exactly what I’m talking about! Your Mom always seemed to know how to insert an embarrassing quote or saying into every conversation and you thought “Boy, I’ll never do that!”

Wrong wrong ding dong!

(That’s number one btw!)

So I thought it would be fun to take a minute and create a list of the weirdest things never thought I would say …. ya’ll ready?

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Relationships: Then vs Now – Do They Have Your Back

Relationships: Then vs Now – Do They Have Your Back

Last Sunday came and went like any other Sunday, except this one brought with it a giant life lesson. By the end of the day I’d asked myself a question that everyone should be asking themselves and found the answer was far more simple then we allow it to be.

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